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Court is stupid and a giant waste of time

I am currently going to court for my son. It’s a long drawn out proccesss. I am pretty sure the first court date was LAST September. Yesterday at court they scheduled a hearing date for THIS September. Nice, huh? Someone forgot to do something so we got delayed even more. The basic gist of the court battle is I want to spend quality time with my son and my son’s mother thinks he would be better off without me. For some reason she doesn’t understand that never in the history of child custody cases has a father been denied seeing his son. Especially one who A) works B) pays his child support C) likes his kid and D) wants to see his kid. Hell, I’m sure there are a ton of dads out there that only do 1 out of those 4 and still see their kid. Yet somehow despite the fact that *I* am the one who started the court proccess so I could see him more, I am the one who doesn’t want him and is basically under attack each time we go to court. I really don’t understand it. I really, really don’t.

So what’s going to happen? We are going to go to court more, we are going to pay this other person money to talk to us about our son, we are going to pay our lawyers more money, we are going to continue to pretend this isn’t going on, there are going to continue being border line lies said about me in court and in the end not much is going to change. I’ll still see Nolan every other weekend for the rest of his life with the chance that the court might decide that I should see him a bit more than that. Basically, it’s going to cost me thousands of dollars that I really can’t afford to get back to where I am right now. Makes sense to me.

Nolan in his Brewers hat

I guess it’s worth it though. Spending of thosands of dollars, wasting a bunch of time and putting up with the stupid court system is certainly a lot better than the alternative of giving up. I mean, just look at him.